Changing yourself for a relationshipI would never advise changing yourself for a relationship. Not in a sense of changing who you are to please someone else.Being in a relationship should be a very special and intimate experience.
An intimate and loving relationship should make you fell loved, appreciated and emotional. Emotional in a sense that you can express your emotions openly and freely. So if you’re thinking or even slightly considering changing yourself for a relationship I sincerely hope that it’s in a positive, no pressure kind of way. By that I’m talking about changing things like…showing your intimate partner respect, courteous, acceptance, unconditional love, support, and any other positive emotion you can share with someone you truly love. That’s what having an intimate relationship is all about. Caring for that person so much that you’d never think about hurting that person in any way, shape or form. So if your not in that type of relationship now, I would advise that you change that relationship not yourself. Changing yourself for a relationship could mean being someone your not. Or acting in a way that is not congruent with your true self. And being someone your not will lower your self esteem by making you feel not good enough. And really how long will that false change last? Probably not long because it’s an all day job to be someone your not. To keep up with a lie is not only mentally draining it’s physically tiring as well. And if your partner loved you unconditional he/she would never ask you to be someone your not. Intimate relationships are not easy to maintain but when it’s good it’s worth every effort you put into it. That’s why it’s physically and mentally impossible to maintain a false image of yourself indefinitely. I advise you to be yourself. Work on building a better relationship with yourself first and an intimate relationship second. Being in an intimate relationship can either bring out the best in you or the worst. If it’s bringing out worst then you’re not with the right person. And changing yourself for a relationship that is not working is like trying on a pair of jeans that don’t fit and changing them for a different color instead of size. Do yourself and everyone around you a personal favor and start building a better relationship with yourself. Learn to treat yourself with respect and kindness and everyone else will do the same. If you show the people around you that you have the upmost respect for yourself by not allowing negative people or situations you bring you down, then they will treat you the same way. Building a better relationship with yourself is a personal experience that will allow you to have a more meaningful and expressive life experience. New! CommentsHave your say about what you just read! Leave me a comment in the box below. |
