Dealing with lonelinessDealing with loneliness is an inside job because no one can make you feel lonely.Most people experience loneliness while in a crowded room. Sure they feel it when there alone too but it mainly happens when their surround by friends and family. That’s why dealing with loneliness need to become a personal pursuit. You must change what your focusing on or thinking about that's causing you to feel separated from others.
Try to hone in on the deeper feelings, the ones that are the real cause. The feelings that created this surface feeling of loneliness in the first place.
For example, do you or have you ever felt... Unloved? Not good enough? Separate from others? Different? Uncoordinated? Distant from loved ones? These are all deeper level feelings and emotions that stop you from dealing with loneliness effectively. You've covered up your deeper levels for so long that you forgot they ever existed. You must get rid of these feeling first before you can deal with the effects they’ve had on you. So take out a journal or open a blank word document and answer these three questions. What happened to me in the past that allowed me to separate myself from others?Answering these three questions will help you better understand where your feelings of loneliness came from. They will also help you identify some situations or events that initially triggered the feeling of loneliness. You will also begin to realize that this feeling was not giving to you by someone else, but was created within you. How else could you feel loneliness in a crowd of people? If you truly want to move past this feeling and create more joy and happiness in your life than spend some time getting to know your belief about being alone. Become aware of how you feel when you're by yourself and when you’re surrounded by people, family and strangers.
This will reveal a lot about your deeper feelings. Feelings that make you act and behave in ways you didn't even know you could.
I hope you understand now how dealing with loneliness is an inside job and how you can overcome it and be happy when you’re alone or in a crowd of people. It’s time to rid yourself of these feelings once and for all. So now you have a better understanding of where the feelings originated from, now let’s eliminate them. - The next time you’re in a crowd of people I want you to participate in the conversation. You don’t have to speak but you can engage yourself by nodding your head, smiling or by actively listening. This may seem difficult at first but thrust me if you distract yourself enough times when you feel that inner voice telling you how lonely you are then you’ll free yourself from it. Dealing with loneliness is just like dealing with any internal emotional turmoil, it becomes an inside job. New! CommentsHave your say about what you just read! Leave me a comment in the box below. |
