How do I get it?

Question

Why do I become numb and cannot think of anything interesting to say, or doubt myself and am not comfortable around people specifically a man who appears to be very confident? Why do I allow this man to tell me that he is not interested in a commitment while I am and allow myself to continue to have sexual encounters with him? I justify it by saying it is perfectly normal to take care of my sexual needs, even though I would prefer and wish he wanted more from me as I am worthy. Why does he not find me worthy of more?
Please help me to find my purpose, the self respect and empowerment to be who I am meant to be. I am 44 years old and have a 20 year old son and feel lost.

Answer
Thank you for submitting this question because a lot of women feel the same way you do. But not all of them realize that they are suffering from low self esteem.

First of all before anyone can see and know your true worth you must show them. Confidence, esteem, personal worth, personal value they all have to be shown not told.

When you meet someone who is self confidence and totally sure of himself, isn't it irresistible? He doesn’t have to tell you that he thinks highly of himself, you just know.

For you to build your self esteem and unshakable confidence you need to have a deep love for yourself. A love that no one can touch.

Start by doing the worksheets that I have on this website. Really get to know yourself and what your capable of accomplishing.

Start there and work your way through the rest of this site while repeating to yourself silently or out loud in a mirror - "I love and accept myself!" 100 times a day.

At first you probably won't believe it and feel goofy doing it. But stick with it and you'll start to believe it. Then you'll start to know it and your whole life will get better and better.

Take care and best of luck to you.