Build your self esteem by letting go of the pastLetting go of the past can set you free to do great things with the present and future. Holding onto past mistakes or past regrets will make you feel crappy in the now.Everyone does things in the past that their not proud of but not everyone lives from that places. That place that is unchangeable. Letting feelings like regret, shame, and guilt rule your life will keep you locked into a negative state of mind. A state that will have you burst out in anger and frustrations easily. Here are 3 steps you can take for letting go of the past… Write in a journal! This is (and always will be) my first and most highly recommended step for building your self esteem and feeling better about yourself. Keeping a journal is like having a therapist that doesn’t talk back, only listens. And most times that’s all you really need is for someone to listen to you. That’s why I also recommend that you go to counseling. Yes go talk to someone who can help you let go of the past. Someplace where you can let it all out. No holding back. That’s why I recommend counseling because with friends or family you tend to hold back and you don’t feel the relief of letting it all go. Besides with counseling it’s completely confidential. And you don’t have to worry about what he/she is thinking of you. Because their not. They do this stuff everyday, so you’re not going to shock them. They’ve heard it all. Trust me. Live for the present and the future in all areas of your life. If you’ve never exercised in the past – start. If you’ve always ate whenever and whatever – stop. If you have always let people walk all over you – quit. If you’ve been hiding from your true self and what you want to do – start setting goals to take you to that place in the future. By living in the present you are letting of the past. You need to find something that is worthy and meaningful for you to look forward to. It will keep you from looking back on things in your past that you never done but wish you had. Or that you did and wish you hadn’t. But honestly the #1 feeling most people carry around with them from the past in – shame. Why? Because it’s so easy to do anything and everything that seems like a good idea at that time. It’s so easy because we’re inexperienced and unaware of the full cause and effect fact and oblivious to our surroundings. That’s what growing up is all about. We have to go through al that stuff, all our low points to get to the top of our own personal mountains. But no one starts out their. That’s why letting go of the past mistakes, regrets and shame are so important. We have to in order to become a confident, mature and experienced adult. Looking back on your life, once you drop the negative feelings about what happened, will make you a wise and experienced person. Your self esteem will improve as well as your love for yourself once you let of the past hurts, rejections and mistakes. You’ll be able to go back over your past and see that what you went through then made you who you are today. Now if you don’t like that person then be honest with yourself and make the personal decision to change. I believe that is what the past is a for – a personal learning tool for our own benefit. So if you want to change your present life and your future outcome, start by letting go of the past. New! CommentsHave your say about what you just read! Leave me a comment in the box below. |
