Peer pressure can be a good thing

Peer pressure is a very strong force that needs to be focused in the right direction or else it will have you doing things that you will regret later.

And it doesn’t just happen to high school kids. It happens to all of us at any age. That’s why it’s so important to surround yourself with loving, mature and nourishing people.

People who will have a positive impact on your life. They will put pressure on you to do good and wonderful things with your life. I heard a woman say one time, “show me your friends and I’ll show you your future.”

That’s really powerful and scary at the same time. It made me wake up and take a look around at my close friends and co-workers.

So take a look around and if you have a lot of negative people in your life you’re going to feel a lot of negative peer pressure to do the things that they're doing. Or to believe the things that they believe.

And that’s the kind of pressure you don’t need especially if you want to live a happy and healthy life. The people you’re around will either lift you up and inspire you to do great things or they won’t. 

Simple as that. But you can take a few specific actions to start building a positive peer group. You can literally build a positive circle of influence and watch your life blossom in all areas.

Here are two steps you can take to build your positive peer pressure group

  • Go to new and different places and get around some new and different people. You need to step out of your comfort zone and make some new friends.

  • Don’t participate in drama. Don’t get caught up in gossiping. This will draw more negative people into your life. You want to find the people who talk about ideas not people. If you find yourself surrounded by nasty people then be as select as possible with the conversation topics you choose to be a part of.

I know from experience that a lot of people will use peer pressure to get you into negative situations or negative conversations very easily.

Peer pressure can also come from family members

  • Don’t allow family members to peer pressure you into doing stuff you don’t want to do. Sounds easy, right? Wrong. Family can be one of the biggest influences in your life – personal and professional.

Even if they sincerely want to help, and most times they truly do want what’s best for you, they can still pressure you into doing things you don’t believe is right for you.

The only person on earth who truly knows what’s best for you is YOU.

We all, at different times in our life, have been pressured by family to do or say things that we regret later.

Peer pressure is a very strong force that we all need to be aware of or we’ll lose our self in the power of it.

So here’s one more person to consider when you’re deciding who stays and who goes from your close circle of influence.

Your significant other. This person has a huge impact on you. So you need to ask yourself a few questions to honestly know if this person is good or bad for you.

But trust me when I say, once you know, you know. And you must face the fact that there is no way to change a person who doesn’t want to change for themselves.

Here we go –

  • Does your significant other encourage you to do great things with your life? Or does he/she try to hold you back?
  • Does your significant other give you honest, loving and encouraging compliments?
  • Dose your significant other do what it takes to be the best he/she can be?
  • Does your significant other want what is best for you? What’s best for them? What’s best for both of you?

If you answered no to all or most of these questions, you’re not alone. But now I have one more question for you to answer.

Do you do all these things for yourself even if no one else does?

Okay so now you have a pretty good idea if you’re surrounded by positive or negative people. If it is mostly negative then you need to get busy adding some new people to your circle of influence.

Your goal is to find people who give you a healthy dose of peer pressure so that you can make great things happen in your life.

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