Social anxiety and depression have a way of making you feel sheltered and cut off from the rest of the world. It’s unfortunate really because you don’t have to live that way.
You don't have to let it run your life. You can breakthrough these two disastrous emotions by changing the way you think and feel about interacting with others.
Being shy or soft-spoken is not the same as social anxiety because we're all shy or quiet sometimes when we're around others for lots of different reasons.
But do you have a real fear of being around other people? When you’re around big crowds or just people you don't know do you become really uncomfortable? Do you feel this way when you’re around your peer group or even family members?
Social anxiety and depression go hand-in-hand when you're anxiety goes untreated for a while.
Neither one of these feelings or emotions are very pleasant. Let's look at some ways in which you can begin to lessen the feelings or eliminate them all together.
First we'll start with social anxiety.
When you have social anxiety you feel uncomfortable around other people, for whatever reason. These people can be strangers or people you've known in your entire life.
One-on-one interactions are not that debilitating for people with social anxiety because they don't feel threatened or judged by the other person.
But when someone with social anxiety gets in a crowd of people they begin to immediately feel Judged, threatened and pressured to be someone they're not.
That’s how social anxiety leads to depression. The more you’re exposed to other people, the more you feel obligated to perform. Really it all stems from a feeling of “not being good enough”.
Somewhere or sometime in your life you felt not good enough and it became easier and easier to feel that way.
And feeling that way enough times leads you to believe it. So in order to break free you need to recondition yourself to truly believe that you are a valuable and worth wild person and that you deserve respect, kindness, and courteous just as much as anyone else.
So you must begin by building yourself up internally. You can build yourself up by focusing on all your positive qualities.
And I don't want to hear that you don't have any, of course you do, we all do.
Start building a list and read it often, add to it and begin the process of building your self worth, your self-value and your self esteem.
In order to overcome social anxiety and depression you must feel and believe that you are a valuable and worthy person. That you are creative and unique. That you have something special to offer the world.
We all do and it's our job to uncover what that is.But if you're hiding from every experience that would help you to grow and evolve then you're missing out on the purpose of life.
Everyone's looking for their purpose these days but if they don't start where they are and look deep inside themselves they’ll never discover it.
Social anxiety and depression are also caused by not feeling loved and accepted by the people around you. But instead of seeking outside yourself to experience these emotions, look inside where they have been the whole time.
Learn to love and accept yourself completely for exactly who you are and your social anxiety and depression will be a thing of the past.
Trust me, I used to try and hid every time I was in a crowd of people for fear that someone would notice me and actually say something out loud to embarrass me. I was always on edge just waiting to be insulted or humiliated by someone else.
But believe it or not that actually draws more attention to you because people can see that you are trying to avoid the situation. But if you truly show up and be there physically and mentally you’ll blend right in.
For example, I went to this girls house with some of my other friends when we were in high school and I just barely crept in the door behind everyone else in hopes of not be notices. It didn’t work at all. The girl who lived there looked at me and her faced reflected back to me exactly how I felt.
Like what the hell was I doing at her house? It made the situation very uncomfortable for me so much so that I’ve never forgotten it and it was at least 12 years ago. At least, maybe more.
To get rid of social anxiety and depression you pretty much have to do the opposite of what you’ve been doing.
For instance, look up not down. Talk instead of never saying a word. Smile and joke instead of acting like you’re not paying attention.
I overcame social anxiety and depression when it finally occurred to me that I was going to have to learn to love and accept myself first before anyone else could.
It’s your life, and as scary as it is sometimes, you get to decide how you're going to live it.comments powered by Disqus